We know there are things that have been done in the favor of women but it can’t be denied that women live their life in fear. Whether they are walking home from work in the dark or meeting someone, they are always under fear. And unfortunately, men are the biggest contributors to it.

Seeing the entire situation, a Reddit user Honnung posted a question on the platform: “Women of Reddit, what are the things men do that scare you but they don’t realize it?” Seeing this question, so many people replied and we have compiled 35 top stories for you.

Scroll down to check out some of the most upvoted answers. 




1.

When I say I don’t like something — like something he said, or did, or joked about — and he says ‘you secretly like it :).’ That makes my skin crawl and alarm bells start going off. Don’t tell women what they like.

“My friends and I have spoken about the subject many times and thought nothing of it,” the Reddit user told us. “When I later talked to my boyfriend, he admitted that he and his friends never really thought about it. I have personally been in many situations where men do things that freak me out and I wanted to see what experiences other women have; plus it would be good for men to hear the thoughts we don’t really say out loud.”

“There were a lot of fights in the comments between men trying to justify their actions and women holding them accountable. I thought it was just a matter of ignorance but I see now there are a lot of people who just straight up refuse to listen.”

2.

Blocking my path or physically holding me in place if they are not done talking to me. Basically, using their strength or size to restrict my motion in any way

“The fear of sexual assault is shadowing every other fear”. “All the things parents tell their children socialize them that they should be responsible for their own safety,” Lane explained. “We socialize girls to be terrified. We socialize boys to be tough.”

3.

Telling women to smile

“I am almost sure that the fear has grown since the Internet became a thing. Women share experiences; stories about men getting into their cars, onto balconies, videos of men just harassing women on the street. And for some, this might just be a quick video you see on Instagram but for many, this is a big warning for what’s out there in the world,” the Reddit user said. “‘And even if this one man won’t try to attack me in the street at night, the next one might. Or the next one.’ You never know so you generalize and fear everyone.”

“We talk more openly and the correct use of the Internet (like with this post) can give women a chance to talk in a (mostly) safe space and a chance for men to listen. For the most part, [it looks like people are ceasing to brush it off] as just ‘something that happens which is a big step in the right direction.”

“We have to, instead of just teaching our daughters to be afraid of the world, teach our sons how they can make it safer.”

4.

Touching you in any way without permission, even if it seems harmless to you. Unfortunately, that happens rather often in retail. Don’t touch my shoulder when you talk to me. Don’t stroke my hair. Don’t caress my hand when you give me your money. Don’t touch my ass or my boobs or anything at all! Please respect my personal space. It freaks me out when male strangers come near me and touch me in any way

5.

Thinking ‘no’ isn’t the final answer. Believing that with a little more convincing, I’ll say yes. It makes me believe you don’t respect me and worries me about how far you will go after I say no.

6.

Any time someone tries really hard to convince me he’s a ‘nice guy.’ Every guy I’ve met that desperately brings it up every chance he gets isn’t usually very nice. It always makes me wonder, what are they trying to hide? Like why do I have to think you’re nice? Prove it with your actions, don’t tell me repeatedly

7.

Parking right next to my car in a dark and/or empty parking lot. I’ve had this conversation with several girlfriends, but when I’ve mentioned it to men they had no idea about what goes through our mind when we see that

8.

Breaking or hitting things out of anger

9.

Standing too close. Even without covid, social distancing is a thing. Stay out of my personal space

10.

Catcalling

11.

‘Jokingly’ using your strength to move me or keep me from moving. If I want to go home and you’re pulling me back, I am not actually going along with it. You are stronger than I am and I literally cannot leave

12.

A night out in the pub, there will always be one guy commenting that I haven’t drunk much. ‘Oh, you’re still on your first glass of wine. You drink slow. Why aren’t you drinking’ etc?

Why are you counting my drinks? Creepy as f***!

13.

Following you to your car to get your number. Don’t. Ever. Do. That.

14.

Hitting on you in locations where you cannot escape (enclosed places like elevators, or workplaces)

15.

I had a guy come into the store I worked at and leave within ten minutes. Not even 5 minutes after he left, he had searched me up on Instagram and messaged me, as well as all other social media. He didn’t have my last name and literally sat in the parking lot to search me up and message me. And then he came into the store a lot more to learn what shifts I worked and was ALWAYS THERE. That’s not endearing or cool, it’s creepy and makes me not want to go to work anymore

16.

Approaching me when I obviously don’t want to be approached ie. I have headphones on, I’m on my phone, I’m reading or pretty much any other universal signal of ‘I don’t want to be disturbed’

17.

While talking online when I say, ‘I don’t know about meeting up,’ and their response is, ‘You are more likely to be [sexually harassed] by someone you actually know in person.’ Yup…Not meeting up now

18.

Standing in doorways or blocking exits

19.

Flirting is fun so long as you don’t ‘flirt’ by asking me where I live, and if I live alone, and if I know people in the area. If you want to chat, flirt, get to know me? Don’t start with the questions that set off alarm bells in my head

20.

Putting your arm on top of my shoulder and around close to my throat. It scares the heck out of me and every other lady I have talked to.

21.

Messaging you on a dating app, commenting that they found your profile and that they are in the same location as you — they can see you, but you can’t see them. I had a guy do this on a fully packed train I was on to go to work. I’m not an anxious person, but it felt really uncomfortable

22.

Driving really aggressively and having road rage. When I was younger and dating, I had so many experiences as a passenger with young guys who were otherwise normal but really intense and scary when they got behind the wheel. It always seemed like a red flag

23.

Trying to sleep with me when I am very obviously not interested. When I confront them, they just say, “Can’t blame a guy for trying.” WTF.

24.

I’ve been approached several times in public by random men who say they want to be friends with me. One leaned in really close to have a conversation and asked me where I was from and where I live. Another grabbed my hands and remarked on how soft my skin is. Another one literally locked arms with me and dragged me to a coffee shop to ‘get to know me and then later told me to come with him to a more private place for a view of the city

25.

Slow down their car when I’m walking. Dude, check your phone down the street. Not pulled up next to a woman walking alone. Infuriates me how few men even think of how that looks.

26.

Common female discussion – Unsolicited nudie pics. Equivalent to those creeps who hide behind the bushes trying to flash you. People need to realize 1 in 4 women have had some kind of [sexuall harassment]. Save it for your partner. Or risk getting blasted or viewed as a weirdo perv.

27.

When a guy won’t give up. He doesn’t even have to be physically present. Being an adamant d**k over text is enough to terrorize you sometimes

28.

The complete inability to see an idea or situation from a woman’s perspective. Instantly getting defensive when you mention something men do makes you uncomfortable. “But, but I don’t do that!!!” Ok cool, but can you see his this might make someone half your size feel??

Whenever a guy does this I realize they have a serious empathy problem and makes me not want to be around them. What happens if they lose their temper, are intoxicated, etc so their inhibitions are even lower?

No thanks, not worth the risk. Also, I try not to spend time with closed-minded people so that automatically rules them out of my friend group

29.

Wanting to go to a secluded location if I don’t know you well. Men on Tinder suggest going on hikes or taking a walk after dinner on first dates. Doesn’t even cross their minds that I would not want to be alone with them on a date

30.

Raising their voice in anger. Even if it isn’t directed at me. Triggers a flight response. An obvious one I know but I think some men have no idea how scary that is. Also grabbing or hugging me from behind as a surprise. Solid way to trigger a panic attack

31.

Uber or Lyft drivers ask me if they’re driving me home. You don’t need to know that!

32.

Strangers complimenting me on my body really freaks me out. I also don’t like people commenting on my hair, but that’s because I’m ginger and I get a lot of sexualized comments

33.

Once a guy made new social media accounts to search me up after I blocked him, THREE TIMES

I don’t know what he thought would happen by just keep trying. Like I would just go “I love how you stalk me and keep shooting your shot after I’ve blocked you several times! Marry me”??

34.

Getting really intense about our relationship/ friendship really early on. A lot of guys turn women into this kind of fantasy thing that’s supposed to make them whole/ help them change or whatever. Sir, I am the main character in my own life, not just a supporting one in yours. When you put that pressure on me right away abs without reciprocation, I know that I don’t actually matter, you’ve been taught that women serve you

35.

Meeting me at my job and asking for my work schedule so they can ‘see me more often’