Have you ever been to a marriage where the couples didn’t last long, or they didn’t get married?
Today, we are diving into the real-life stories shared by people in this Ask Reddit thread who witnessed a wedding where nobody married. And to survive this level of drama, you’ll need bowls of popcorn, like three or five.
This happened around 20 years ago. I am Indian and was supposed to get married to a guy who was a close family friend. That guy was nice and all, but on the wedding day, he ran with my sister. Yes you guys read it right, he ran away with my younger sister. So my entire family was very upset and claimed his younger brother as “compensation”. I got married to his younger brother.
Marriage has turned out superb, like one of those dream marriages you see on TV. But yes the marriage was a accident
Yeah one of my distant relatives. The groom got really drunk and hit his fiance in the face in front of everyone. I was young and didn’t really get what was going on, I just remember my uncle laying the groom out with one punch.
I was talking with a DJ who told me of a wedding he did. Gets all the way into the reception and it’s time to cut the cake. The groom mashes the cake into the bride’s face, and she is LIVID. She turns red, screams at him, and SLAPS him across the face so hard it sounds like a gunshot and it echoes across the reception hall. Everyone gasps and gets quiet. She storms off.
A little while later, the father of the bride comes up to the DJ and hands him $500. He says, “Listen, this marriage… is over. She’s actually left the building. But I’ve paid for this party and all my family and friends are here. I want you to finish out the night and finish it strong, keep the music playing and don’t mention the two of them again for the rest of the night.” He agrees and everyone has a grand ol’ time.
A friend of mine asked me to go to her cousin’s wedding as her date, her cousin was the bride to be. The ceremony seemed to go well, except the groom fidgeting, looking about, and wearing an almost hostile expression on his face. Seemed odd, but I assumed it was nerves.
He and the bride said their vows, standard protestant Christian stuff, but they added a stomping of a glass, at the end, for some reason.
Once the priest got to the “I pronounce you…” the groom didn’t wait for the “kiss the bride” part, grabbed the bride and rather abruptly turned her and himself around the face the audience. He then started yelling at the people on her side of the aisle, that she was his now and they should give up any thought of ever seeing her again.
The bride attempted to protest, or calm him down, not certain which, but when she tried to say something, he backhanded her hard enough to knock her off of the dais. This all happened in a few seconds and everyone in the audience was stunned.
Just as we started to react, the priest proceeded to land a solid punch on the groom’s face, flattening his nose with a notable crunch.
The groom kinda crumpled, people in the audience were yelling at each other, trying to push, shove, help one person or another up, but in all of this the priest calmly reached over to the podium, took what I assume to be their marriage certificate, and tore it into tiny pieces.
He then tried to calm things down, but the scene was chaos, and looked to be turning into a brawl. My friend and some others helped the bride to get out of there, I simply tried to keep anyone from running up on them, not knowing who was on which side, and cover their exit.
Once outside, we got the bride into a car with her mum and my friend, so they could leave, and I made haste to my car.
I learned, a few days later that the groom was arrested breaking into the bride’s house, using a shotgun as a lock-pick, and trashing her house looking for her.
The marriage was not recorded by the official/priest, so at least the bride didn’t have to go through the trouble of getting a divorce. I declined wedding invites for some time after that.
I have a perfect example. I used to work with a girl named Ashley. She worked in my office a couple desks down. She was engaged to some guy I never met. He used to travel a lot for work or so I was told. We became pretty close friends and a couple of us were invited to the wedding.
Ashely’s coworkers threw her a party for her wedding the weekend before. I went and had a great time. I had no idea the following would happen..
A couple days before the wedding, while at work I heard some coworkers talking loudly that there had been something terrible. I went over to hear what was going on and I found out Ashley had called off the wedding. Family and friends from Utah had already flown in to see the wedding.
Come to find out, the fiancé was actually a piece of sh*t low life. He had no job and was stealing from her. She decided not to go through with it.
So three months after the canceled wedding, Ashley and I started dating. She told me later she had doubts about the marriage and had feelings for me. Which I didn’t know I had them as well until after the ordeal.
We have been married for five years now and have a son together.
When people ask how we met, we leave that story out.
My brother had a very close call. During the “do you take this man to be your lawfully wedded husband…” part, my SIL just stood there, wordless, for like three minutes. Total deer-in-the-headlights stare. The minister put his hand on her shoulder and whispered something into her ear. Then she left and went into the “worry room” for a while. The minister asked her mom to go join her and told everyone to please be patient, just a case of the jitters, etc.
My brother looked like he had been hit over the head with a sledgehammer. He sat down in the choir, put his head between his knees, and tried not to pass out.
Nearly half an hour later (many “I’ll just go check on how things are going” announcements from the minister), the mom and my SIL came back out. The ceremony started over from the beginning, with the bride reprising her walk down the aisle and everything. She sobbed hysterically through almost the ENTIRE ceremony, but they got through it.
We found out later that a close family friend’s husband had passed away after a long bout with cancer that morning, leaving behind a widow in her early 40’s. It hit my SIL really hard because the neighbor had been nearly a second mother to her, and between her grief at the husband passing away and the realization that marriage is a guarantee that someone will lose the love of his/her life, my SIL pretty much lost it.
They’re still married, three kids, dog, house in the ‘burbs- the works. But it was touch-and-go there for half an hour or so.
I’ve got one war-time story. The groom didn’t appear, or change his mind (I am not sure) and the best man stepped in saying he’s always been in love with the woman and wants to marry her instead. Apparently, giving the war time, the priest approved of that, and they were a very good couple.
Not exactly, but I did know a couple who, the night before their city hall wedding, both had separate big parties and got so wasted they both slept through the wedding. They didn’t realize it until city hall called asking where they were, and they decided f*ck it we’ll do it later. They did eventually get married, and still are as far as I know, over 20 years later.
Here’s another story from India:
My family friend’s daughter (Muslim) was in love with a Hindu guy. They were dating for a while, her family found out and arranged her wedding with some dude. On the day of the wedding, she runs off with her boyfriend. Her dad was the mayor that time, and they had the cops looking all over for her. Last time I heard she’s still with the Hindu guy.
The funny thing is, a few years before that, her brother got married to a Christian chick and no one batted an eyelid.
They managed to get married but then she hopped in a car with some random dude. I was confused, asked my buddy what was going on. He explained that dude was driving her down to the honeymoon spot because she didn’t like the way he (her husband of 3 minutes) drove.
Two days later I found out that once my friend made it to the cabin for their honeymoon he walked in on them in the shower together. She then revealed that she only married him so her parents would get off her back, that she hated him and was shacking up with this guy the whole week instead, they’d tell everyone it wasn’t working out once they got back in town and annul. My friend was obviously devastated by this and has never recovered.
My rednecky sister in law decided to marry her even worse boyfriend. Even though he had a history of physically and verbally abusing her.
So, the day comes, and they’re getting married in this dingy little park. But they never officially reserved it, or anything… They had tried, and were denied… So, they defiantly decided to do it there anyway. Turns out, they were denied because the park was scheduled for some serious construction, and was all torn up.
It rained that morning. Poured. They had no backup location. The few of us there watched the ceremony from our cars, while they huddled under a park gazebo.
The groom showed up late, stone drunk.
There was a car parked off to the side. The girl that the groom was having an affair with watched him get married.
The couple never bothered to get a marriage license, as the JP had instructed. So, she winged it, but told them they were not officially married until they filed for one, on Monday.
At the reception (held in my in law’s driveway, buffet lunch with a DJ) the groom flipped out, angered by the DJs selection of music. The DJ he had not paid a dime for. He stormed out, yelling “f*ck this, f*ck that, f*ck her.” No, seriously… Yelling EXACTLY that, it was surreal. Along the way, he rubbed the affair in the would-be-bride’s face, and threatened to harm everyone present. Peeled out in his pickup truck, getting stuck briefly in the mud.
When my sister in law went to try to make amends with him in the morning, she found him in bed with the mistress.
How did people react? They were honestly glad to see him leave. The general tenor was that the whole thing was a mistake. The party continued after he stormed out.
My friend was getting married, and the man she was marrying had a heart attack literally right before the ceremony after everyone had arrived. Of course, everyone was shocked, but they got married shortly after at the registry office, so it was still a happy ending, I guess
I worked at a wedding where the couple broke up during the reception. The party was on the roof of the building, and there was a small pool. The groom got drunk and thought it would be funny to push the bride, in her full wedding gown, into the water. It was still pretty early in the reception. She stormed out and was taken home by a friend.
My older brother got married to his girlfriend of 10 years. At the end of the party when I and most of my brother’s family had left it all kicked off. Turns out she and my brother’s best friend planned (for 3 years) for the marriage to happen so she could divorce him and take the house and live in it with the guy she’d been banging behind my brother’s back.
Little did she know that the house was in my dad’s name and not my brothers (they have the exact same name). She was entitled to nothing. Last I heard her family abandoned her and so did her boyfriend after she put on lots of weight.
Family friends: The groom left the bride at the altar. He just didn’t show up! He said he had cold feet. The couple stayed together, and then planned another wedding. He stood her up AGAIN!
Somehow, they stayed together, and she agreed (?!) to attempt to marry him a third time. He showed up, they wed, and have been together 45+ years.
I had a buddy of mine who I don’t really talk to anymore, but we aren’t on bad terms (just kinda drifted apart due to life). I was deployed at the time to Afghanistan, so I obviously wasn’t able to make his wedding. I seriously wish I did though, because what happened is f*cking nuts.
So him and his girlfriend were dating for like 5 years, and were going to get married. Everyone approved of this woman too, educated, smart and good looking. Seemed like a catch.
Day of his wedding I guess he left his cell phone in his jacket in some room where the wedding was going to happen. Normally for an event like this he’d be the first to turn it off and leave it somewhere, but I guess he needed to call his cousin who was late and in the wedding.
Turns out he found the bride to be blowing some friend of a bridesmaid in that room, they probably assumed it wouldn’t be in use. He isn’t the type to confront someone, usually just turn red about to erupt and leave. Poor guy just left with his blood boiling.
We have mutual friends who told the story but I believe it. I guess my buddy (the groom) put all her sh*t in boxes inside the garage and forbid her from coming in the home or ever going back there again. They lived together but everything was in his name, so while he’d probably still get in legal trouble she was decent enough to drop it all and take her sh*t and leave. She apparently tried to explain it and apologize but obviously he doesn’t forgive nor forget. He was really destroyed by that.
Back in the ’80s my aunt had gotten married to this guy. At the reception she got black out drunk and passed out; rendering her unable to “consummate” the marriage. Her groom on the other hand, slept with one of the bridesmaids that night.
In the morning, the bridesmaid had confessed the mistake, the “happy couple” immediately went to the courthouse and signed their divorce papers. Married and divorced in a span of 12 hours
My dad was the best man for his best friend of many years. The couple got married, they had the reception, and then after the reception she left and never came back. Not one whole day of married life, he returned to the marital home alone.
He’s a great guy and he’s been with a lovely woman for ~30 years now although they’ve never married. I’ve always wondered (but never asked) if it’s because he’s still married to the first woman, or if the idea of going through a wedding again is just too painful for him.
Was taken to a wedding by a then girlfriend. Knew no one there. Was sort of just dumped with the groom and his wedding party as my girlfriend was a bridesmaid. The groom and his buddies proceeded to get drunk and just bail. Not telling anyone, just leaving. So here I am, not k owing anyone, and the only person who knows this sh*t ain’t happening today.
I had to go to the room the bride was getting ready in, knock, ask for my girlfriend and explain to her. She and I pretty much just had to break the news. We broke up since and I had no reason to keep in contact with bride or groom, so no idea on any follow up.
When I was going through Law School I used to process serve in the evenings – handing our summons and delivering divorce papers etc. ( yeah yeah sh*tty job but that is another story.)
I usually never had time to read the complaints but I was having trouble finding the husband to serve the divorce papers on – he had deserted from the Navy – so I hoped that the papers might have some clue in them as to how I could find him.
Turns out the complaint stated that “… He left the wedding reception with one of the bridesmaids and at that point the wife determined that the marriage was over…”
Looks like he has quite a track record in deserting…
The groom ran away in the morning of his wedding day. He contacted his family after 2 days and told them he’s in another country and doesn’t wanna get married yet. His family pressured him into marrying a woman who he’d only known for 2 weeks. The bride was very upset but she and her family understood the situation and moved on.
This happened in Calcutta / Kolkata and my dad was present (we live in Canada). The couple had been introduced to eah other and after like 6 months of hanging out and getting to know each other they got engaged. They had known each other for almost a year up to this point. These are well off people who are upper income range so it’s not the village or anything, just to set the tone correctly.
There had been events the day before the actual wedding ceremony, which about 500+ people attended and of course people talk, hence word got out…
the evening of the wedding a group of people showed up and litterally blocked the street so the groom couldn’t come to the wedding venue.
The groom had been banging (dating) a female of said blockade family under the promise of getting married. Even introducing himself to her parents and family, planning a future date for his parents to meet hers. Mind you all (500+) the guests had arrived and witnessed this.
For about an hour there was a stand off and the information got back to the venue/ bride and her family and they called off the wedding. The guests were half in shock, half trying to eat and drink as much as they could before the inevitable cancellation happened.
The bride’s family actually took the matter to court (expenses of the wedding and such) and the guy $ettled out of court with them. As well they (the bride and her parents) personally went out and returned all the gifts they received… my dad didn’t allow them to (return the gifts he had given them) and told her to keep them all, due to the circumstances.
Yes, mine. We went to the States for our wedding. All went well and the day after the ceremony we went downtown to the government office to get all the official paperwork. The woman helping us didn’t know quite how to process our Canadian IDs etc. so we ended up dealing with the department honcho. Filled everything out, signed on all the lines, gave them our address and flew home a couple days later.
We waited for a month or so to receive our paperwork in the mail but it never came. I called the government office and got the runaround for twenty minutes before finally being told they had no record of my nor my husband’s name, our identification or our paperwork. When I asked what I could do from a different country they had no ideas. We are going to get married again I suppose, but I really didn’t want to get married in this city. It’s weird, I never saw myself getting married, and now that I am, I’m not.
I’m a wedding minister in Japan. I’ve over seen 500 plus weddings and their have been a few that I thought for sure weren’t going happen after rehearsals. It’s usually some arrogant or absent minded groom that seems oblivious to what is happening or its the father not approving of his daughters choice of sh*t head.
Just a month ago during a rehearsal, I had to ask the parents for approval, it’s like giving away the bride but both sides do it. I ask him and he had to get s stiff elbow from his wife before saying yes while looking at the floor. The groom , a complete idiot in my opinion, didn’t even notice. It was uncomfortable to say the least.
During the actual ceremony the father answered much quicker, but still looked at the floor and then began to cry.
Worked at a catering company for a little while. Bride and groom standing on the beach holding hands at sunset (Hawaiian themed wedding). Officiant asks if there was anyone objects to the union of these two, guy stands up towards the back and says he objects. Everyone kind of laughs it off but the guy is already making his way down the aisle towards the bride and grooms families. The officiant thinks this is some sort of joke, was about to tell him tough luck. Random guy whispers something to the grooms father then the brides father. Both of them tell the party that there will be a short delay. Bride, groom, immediate family plus random guy go Inside venue. 10 minutes later a few cars leave the premises. I’m busy at the bar out on the deck because regardless of how this ends people are going to want a drink. Brides father walks out to the beach and announces that the wedding is off but as they have already prepared all this great food and drink, all are welcome to stay and eat + drink if they want. No clue what the guy said or weather the bride and groom ever got hitched. I do know that there was enough leftovers of steak and lobster to keep myself and roommates eating like kings for most of the week.
Edit: tldr; someone objected to the marriage and had some unknown information that lead to wedding being called.
I went to a wedding where the groom pulled out of it the evening before the wedding. Basically they were both a religious couple who were college boyfriend/girlfriend who were aiming to get married the summer after graduating college but before he went off to grad school. (The bride was a roommate in my suite one year, and I remember him coming to tuck her into bed by reading her a Bible story. Door never closed, of course.) What’s more, this was a wedding in the girl’s town where she grew up a few hours from where we all went to college so all the guests were pretty much there and had already spent money for the hotel room etc.
We ended up spending it doing what you more or less expect we’d be doing, psychoanalyzing their entire relationship at the one bar in town, pulling out every detail in gossip anyone could think of because there was nothing else to do. (Reception was canceled as well as the wedding, as groom’s family all left early and girl’s family wasn’t up for any of it.) Frankly, as someone who liked the groom better it sucked but it’s best he came to his senses- I felt it was more a “get married to have sex” wedding from his angle, and more a “my religious family expected me to get a good man in college, and he is” wedding from hers. So props to him for realizing it would be a mistake over going along with everyone’s expectations at that point.