A mother will always have a special bond with her child. The fact that she carries the child in her womb for nine months has to amount to something. As the kid grows old, parents start worrying about them as they find new interests and reduce interaction. But what happens when a child is shut off by her own mother? In a similar instance, a mother, who thought she was giving too much affection to her child, decided to do the opposite. The mother in question says her 11-year-old child always preferred cuddling with them. But once she realized that she was 11 and that needs to stop, she told her kid not to do it anymore.
This resulted in the kid shutting off entirely. She stopped talking to her mother and only responded when asked something. The worried mother shares her story saying that ever since she told her kid to stop, things have been intense. She says that the daughter doesn’t talk to her unless she has to. Moreover, the affection has been stopped from the kid’s side as well. When the mother tries to hug her goodnight, she does not get a hug back. Plus, the worried mother is aware that she hurt her kid’s feelings.
Mother tells 11yr old kid to stop cuddling, kid shuts off communication entirely
The mother starts explaining her story. “I (37f) am married to my husband (38m) and we have a daughter together (11f). My daughter is very small for her age and as a result gets treated like a younger child sometimes. She loves to hop in my or my husbsnds lap and cuddle with us on the couch or in a chair. I have been thinking that she may be too old for that sort of thing. And maybe I’m hurting her by letting her continue. Yesterday she tried to hop in my lap and cuddle and I told her she was too old for that and to get off me. She got really upset, got off me and went to her room and slammed the door.”
The mom continues, “She hasnt tried to get in my lap since then and things are tense between us. She doesnt talk to me unless she has to and when I hugged her goodnight last night she didnt hug me back. I feel really guilty because I obviously hurt her feelings but I feel like she might be too old for sitting on my lap.”
How did the Internet react?
The Internet couldn’t disagree with her more. Many people remembered their own children and the last times they were that close to their children. One user said:
She’s not going to want to cuddle you much longer. You maybe have a year left. And you’re throwing that time away instead of cherishing it.
Another user said:
Seriously. I wish my kid would have kept doing that to 11. This woman is lucky AF and doesn’t want to be
One user wrote:
Shit, I’m 40 and still have moments where I wish I could sit and cuddle with my mom. She’s on the other side of the country, but still…
I have a picture of my brother when he was about 20 sitting in my dad’s lap at Christmas. We didn’t know it would be my brother’s last Christmas, he was killed 8 months later. OP needs to cherish these moments while she has them.
My 23 year old greets me almost every morning with a hug and I cherish those moments. Never, ever pass up an opportunity to show your kids affection in whatever way they need.
Another person said:
exactly! I grew up extremely attention starved because my parents never showed me any affection. as a parent I make a point of always hugging my son, pulling him on my lap for a hug for a moment. forehead kiss. no way will I ever let my child feel like I did as a child.
