A good indication of how your partner will treat you is how much they respect your boundaries. Maybe it’s time to move on if they trick you and prank you without any care for your feelings or complicated relationship with your culture and religion.

A Redditor, who goes by the nickname Ileriatis and was raised as a Turkish Muslim, turned to the AITA community for their words of wisdom. He was considering moving to a new place after J tricked him into eating pork on his birthday.

Even though he admits that he is progressive, he feels like his boyfriend disrespected his religious beliefs. Ileriatis wanted to know if he was overreacting or if he was getting angry. You can find the full story here.


A progressive Muslim shared how he was tricked into eating pork by his partner.


Ileriatis wasn’t doing anything wrong according to the AITA community. His bf broached a taboo topic in a disrespectful way. He views belief systems that aren’t his own differently because he was in hysterics.

Imagine a person besides a college student feeding their partner pork in secret and what the backlash would be in the media and society. You don’t go about breaking taboos just for fun. It is only a joke if both sides are laughing.

Ariane Sherine, a British stand-up comedian, told that she is half-Asian. “Humor defuses a situation, so if you claim ‘oh, it’s only a joke, I didn’t mean it’ then it often acts as a kind of mitigating factor. But of course, racist jokes are harmful and offensive,” she said.

The output of the late British comic Bernard Manning is one example of harmful and racist comedy that Ariane gave us. The comic “used to say, ‘I’m not racist, I make jokes about everyone,’ but if your jokes incite racial hatred, they aren’t jokes,” Ariane pointed out.

All of the cultural and religious traditions that a person grew up with, even if they are more progressive, don’t necessarily go away when someone is more progressive. Pork is one of the foods considered to be forbidden or haram by the Holy Quran. One exception to this rule is if one of the faithful was starving and there was nothing else to eat.

Pork is considered to be a bad food in the Muslim faith. This belief is part of Islam and should be respected by other people.


People have been reacting to the story. The majority of people supported the original poster.


You wouldn’t serve pork to a Muslim, you wouldn’t serve Hindu beef, and you wouldn’t serve Christian meat on a Friday. It doesn’t mean that someone’s ability to think and be polite leaves them. What Ileriatis’ partner did was even more unreasonable. What do you think the Redditor should do?